IF YOU WANT A GARDEN, LEARN TO GROW.
If you were attempting to grow a garden with little prior experience and it failed to thrive, would you just keep repeating the same process the same way over again hoping it would work this time? Or would you get some books, ask some experts, go to classes and generally study horticulture to improve your outcomes?
Relationship is a garden. It will never be perfect or not need constant maintenance and adjustment to conditions. Some few of you have “green thumbs” but most of us have to learn as we go along if we want a beautiful thriving garden.